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A WORLD FULL OF AMIGOS!

Have you ever come across with someone who has taught you a life lesson just in one meet or even in a conversation? Let me share my story and make this topic a bit more interesting. There was a phase when I was barely interested in talking to people around me. Animals, music and nature became my friends (They are still my best companions though). No, I’m not blaming anyone for this because it was me who wasn’t completely feeling herself. During that time, I started seeing things differently. I realized that the society we live in, is surrounded by millions of strangers. A world full of Amigos!

THE GREATEST TEACHERS ARE OFTEN THE LEAST OBVIOUS ONES

Now the interesting part is each unknown person can teach you more than you will ever think of. This happened  with me because I talked to many people on an anonymous platform, who were alien to me. I know I know you probably just rolled your eyes at this because we’ve always been taught that it is not safe to talk to an outsider. But here’s a small reminder: we all start as strangers. And in the world where concept of blind dates and making pen friends have become ordinary, can I not even share or listen to a newbie? Okay I won’t mind if you consider me a bit lunatic in this case 😀 Also, I’ve always believed that it is completely normal to escape from reality when you feel lost. In fact, it somewhere helps you in getting back to the right track.

So I listened to their life stories, what’s their point of view on different aspects, how they cope up with day to day issues and what not. And all of them astonished me in one or the other way. Some of them were highly intellectual. Their mind and mouth were completely in sync. They taught me number of lessons. For instance, how to enjoy your freedom, never under estimate the impact of a small effort, what’s important is to live for yourself and the list goes on.

 The other ones were going through a hell lot of issues. But they were very comfortable in sharing their worries because somewhere they knew that I’m not going to judge them. And even if I do, it will hardly bother them. So here what I learned is vibes don’t lie. Hence, trust them. Also, If you’re sharing your story/problem and asking someone about their opinion on it, you might get a fruitful advice. As I truly feel that the greatest teachers often are the unexpected ones.

THE LESSON

Now that you know my story, you will understand better what I’m exactly trying to convey. We are all busy creatures. We have baggage, we have problems, we have to-do list that never seems to end. But if we help someone even by being a good and patient listener, we can make an optimistic difference in his life.

A stranger can help you go through a small, but difficult moment. And this could be a good deed without expecting anything in return, right?

There will always be someone who is busier, someone who is going through one or the other problem, someone who has more difficult path to blaze. Which is why I am recommending that WE take at least 10 minutes of our busy schedule, to  some empathy and make other person’s morning/afternoon/evening a little bit better than it started. Trust me, you will feel happier than the person who was in trouble.

You must be wondering that how is it possible to be a wingman for an unfamiliar soul. How will we even get to know about who wants our help. So here’s your answer, you don’t have to make efforts in that. Just stop and look around, there are number of anonymous individuals that might need your help. A little kindness can go a long way.

Always keep in mind, a simple gesture can make a huge difference in someone’s life. So try to be a ray of sunshine in a stranger’s entity and feel the happiness. Make our society a happy and healthier one.

I hope this write up sparks something in you and convince you in helping someone.. Also, do let me know in the comment section when was the last time you helped a stranger or has an amigo ever lend his helping hand towards you?

 

 

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Is there any point to hold Grudges against anyone?

Before I start this topic let me clear one important point. Though grudge and resentment are similar in books but there’s a bit difference between the two in real world. The former is a deep feeling of dissatisfaction due to betray and is always directed towards people. On the other hand, resentment is a feeling of painful bitterness due to any unfair practice and unlike a grudge, it can be directed towards concepts in addition to people. 

We all have experienced hurt and pain in our lives. Oh! I’ve also been the victim of this. There was a time when I was drowned with betray, questions and negative thoughts. But fortunately, it did not last for long.

Have you ever thought why do we hold grudges when they are quite painful to maintain? Why do we keep hurting ourselves by living in past experiences of pain which prevent new experiences from being able to happen? What keeps us stuck when we want to let go and above all, does it really make sense to hold such kind of intense bitterness?  

CONSEQUENCES

The worst part towards holding hard feelings is that you gradually turn into a bitter person and start yourself wrapping so much up in the negative thoughts that you can’t enjoy the present. A small fight can literally ruin any relation if we don’t allow ourselves to forget and let go. Sometimes people spend ages by hanging onto a particular argument. Even though they may have strong desire and put in concerted effort to move on and start with afresh but they fail. Few things are more daunting than having to speak in front of a large crowd. This issue is one of them. You really can’t express how hard it is to let go for some people.

But what’s the point? You had an argument with someone. You furiously said lot of cruel words which weren’t needed. Now, instead of sorting out, you both decide to part your ways even when you never thought of doing so. And then there comes a time when two of you indulge in thinking what went so wrong that we took this big step? Mental pain is the worst pain one could ever deal with and I hope it is clear after reading the consequences.

HOW TO GET RID OF THIS FEELING?

Grudges don’t make us feel better or heel our hurt. Here are some ways to get a grip on the pain and find the strength to let it go:

  • The best way to forget this bitter feeling is to start rewinding good moments happened. Instead of wasting time in recalling why did they do that, start thinking about the good times.
  • Acknowledge the problem and understand that everyone feel a pang of remorse. Some people are unable to apologize or may not fully understand that the person they hurt may need to hear one.
  • Don’t dwell on it and stop doing a continuous discussion on that topic.
  • Understand that not every person is meant to stay. They came, played their role and went back. So take it as a learning experience instead of blaming anyone. Walk away with the better understanding that can help you let go of the issue.
  • I know some disputes can never find settlement. And forgiving isn’t the easiest to do especially when you’ve endured a lot of pain and hurt, but it’s the only way to live a peaceful life without disappointments. So forgive and move on.

We are young. We make impulsive decisions. Many of us spend most of our time in thinking what went wrong, instead how to make it right. I was alike you. But not anymore. I understood that you can begin to free yourself when you begin to forgive. And I’ve learned this from my super hero,” My Father”. He has made me realize that we should always choose to create our own healing with or without apology.

So if you’re dealing with such kind of hatred just ask yourself, Is all this making any sense ?

I’m curious what you people think! Feel free to sound off below in the comment section. And remember, no hard feelings for anyone 🙂