I’ve been thinking to write on this topic from quite a long but wasn’t able to put into words. So finally here I am, with yet another little reminder on how important it is to think of the ones we have loved and lost, not necessarily to death.
But here’s a disclaimer: It’s not going to be a sad letter for your loved one who you have once wished to be with, rather it’ll highlight the concept of how to move forward in your tough times and be grateful to those who have taught you some painful lessons in your life.
I believe everyone has had their share of loss- more than some and less than others. Love is precious and life is fragile. You can’t have one without the other.
When we lose someone we love, it distorts our universe and our peace, and nothing seems right. There is a future that will never exist and a past that we want to go back to, and we feel like we can’t be further from the present moment and reality. Questions like “why” and “how” keep haunting us but we don’t receive any answers.
However, lately I’ve realized that moving on has nothing to do with the bond you’ve created with a person in the past. It’s more like you meet an anonymous being, vibe with him/her and think of getting along more often. But not everyone is meant to stay. Not everyone will have your back. Love costs so much because it gives so much. This is why, one doesn’t always have to die to make the other drown in grief. But instead of grumbling about it, we should embrace the reality that “the more I love, the more painful will be the loss.”
ACCEPT IT AND FIND PEACE WITHIN:
People are not gone, they are just changed and you’re no longer the part of that change. Nothing is broke or wrong, it’s just different. So instead of making it much harder, accept that what you were trying to cope with was not a loss but a change and find peace all over again. Fun fact: the person who is most scared of changes is putting down about the significance of this universal constant 😀
I know this is not a change that we have anticipated or wanted. We may wonder if we will ever be the same, if we will go back to our old self. But understand the fact that nothing is lost in the universe. Everything is energy and energy is never lost.
I believe that the people we think we lose, transform into something else and move on to the next stage of life. They are still here, but not in the same way as before.
CUT THE BLAMING SESSION:
This is the most common thing we do when we get out from a certain type of a fellowship. I do get it that there might be some level of toxicity, flaw, frustration or even worse than that but try to understand that some people are around to play with us in the sun, while others will weather through storms and seasons with us.
Also, we live in an era where human beings are more complex than any other species. So apparently, one of us is bound to create complications in other’s life. Hence, cut the whole pointless game of blaming each other and learn from your hard lesson. In short, Stop trying to “Undo”. Rather, start “afresh”.
Fortunately, this blog has not much to do with my personal life because I’ve been really grateful to God for giving me the best people who stick by me like a glue . But do let me know in the comment section if there’s someone you’ve loved and lost and how they left a major impact in your life. And most importantly, have you mentally let them go?