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Growing up while adulting

When I was a kiddo, I really wanted to grow soonest as I was living in a delusion that being an adult would be so much fun. I would get to live my life as per my own terms and conditions without any struggles or hardships. Okay fine you’re allowed to laugh at this because it’s so hysterically yet painfully true. But obviously, when I hit my 20’s, I gradually started realizing that the world has so much for me to offer only if I’m ready to face the consequences with it. Well that’s when I hit my adulting era!

But here’s a subtle difference in my thoughts. I believe even though we are in the phase of being responsible and practical, we are still learning how to be one in some or the other way. So just thought of naming this blogpost as “Growing up while adulting”! Okay let’s be more candid here rather than discussing about why adulting is hard.

Let’s be real

Transitioning into adulthood often feels like entering a phase that you feel unprepared for. As an adult, you’re often on your own and are responsible for your own life. This realization can be overwhelming for lot of us who find it difficult to navigate the ups and downs of adulthood.

The lack of open conversation about “adulting” may stem from the perception that it’s a natural, inevitable transition, and therefore, not something that needs explicit discussion.

However, the challenges of navigating adulthood, from financial burdens to emotional adjustments, can be isolating for many young adults. Because along with freedom, responsibility, mindfulness, building a career, managing finances, paying bills, adulting also comes with loads of expectations, uncertainties, failures, disappointments, overwhelming reactions, pessimism, inferiority complex and over thinking. But that’s completely okay.

Adulthood is just one of the stages of your life. You still have a long way to go. I know this phase involves several ups and downs and you ought to make wise decisions but maturity doesn’t come overnight. There will be mistakes. The journey of adulting is different for everyone, and what works for some might not work for others. We need to find our own path, break down the tasks into smaller and make it less daunting. So breathe, ease out a bit and take one step at a time. This period also teaches you to be composed.

Enduring adult friendships

This topic requires a whole new blog coz I have a lot to talk about it. One of the most disturbing and affected bonds in adulthood is probably friendship. Just imagine, being a friend with someone for more than a decade, going through thick and thin, doing epic shit (pardon my language but that’s what homies do) and suddenly thinking how to break the ice with the same bunch of people as if we are meeting for the first time. You would be lying if you say it never happened with you. We all have faced this situation, given a thought, felt upset but still moved on while saying “ab woh baat nahi rahi”.

And by good fortune if you’re still great pals, you are not same anymore. You still want to hangout but in a quiet place where you can talk to each other instead of partying whole night. You still want to celebrate your wins or share your worries but in a calm way instead of showing excitement or nervousness and just blabbering out whatever your heart desires.

Yes, we all are going through this phase, thinking “how sad are we and then instantly realizing that we’re not sad, we are just not 21 anymore.” That’s what Joey, Chandler and Ross made us understand in their amusing manner (iykyk)

And then out of everyone, there are still 2-3 idiots with whom even if you’re talking after months, they will still make you feel happiest. There’s some kind of trust, mutual respect and a lot of understanding with these fellows. Just another instance of growing up being mature. I’m lucky enough to have those gems in my life. Shoutout to such low maintenance friendships.

Nothing just venting out

Bitter truth: It might hit you hard but no one really bothers listening to your worries after a certain point of time. I mean common, each one of us is dealing with our own mundane hassles. So stop cribbing about it everyday. It’s your life and only you know how to deal with it.

Sweet fact: Once you realize the former thing, you’ll start loving all those li’l bitterness because of which you were feeling mentally exhausted. So keep growing up while adulting.

Good news?

You’re not alone in this struggle. Adulting isn’t about perfection, it’s more about learning, adapting and forgiving ourselves for not having all the answers. Some days we’ll be productive and the other days, we’ll just survive- and that’s okay. We need to remember that being an adult means also taking care of ourselves and our mental and emotional needs. Because at the end of the day, we’re all just growing up. Honestly, I just unleashed my thoughts in this write up but I hope you could also somehow connect with it. Feel free to show your love in the comment section. Happy adulting!

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IT’S TIME TO REBOOT YOURSELF !

From past few weeks, there’s only one word which is stuck with us like a strong gum and that is CORONA. No matter where you go, whom you talk to, what are you watching, this topic has become a new sensation for the entire world. People are so frustrated that as soon as they hear about COVID-19, their expressions suddenly changes into “OH God! Not Again. Well there’s no point to annoy yourself thinking that “What am I going to do in these four walls until next few days” because it’s time to reboot your life.

This is a major outbreak which cannot be ignored at any cost. Safety has always been everyone’s priority so if one has to compromise with their work, duties and projects then I don’t think he/she should get offended.

“My home is the safest place to live in. I don’t get enough time to spend with my family due to busy schedule. I miss my good old days when I used to focus more on my hobbies and do all those things which I love the most”. These are the most common dialogues we keep saying throughout our regular days. And now when we got some time to stay calm, we are bored…we are done. Funny, isn’t it?

Do you even realize how terribly we are trapped in this rat race that we cannot even imagine to be at our own comfort zone even for couple of days. The entire mass media is flooded with safety measures, all the famous personalities are trying to convey the importance of self-quarantine. Doctors, nurses, compounders are having sleepless nights just to cure their patients as early as possible. And we? We are tired of sitting at home because we have nothing to do. Like seriously?

RESUME WITH THE FLASHBACK

Everyone has wished at some point or another that life  came with a reboot button. So It’s high time to reboot yourself but with a little twist, BY GOING BACK TO BASICS. Who said only outdoor activities can keep us busy? Who said that we can entertain ourselves only by going out? Sleeping is not the only option left. There is so much productive you can do while stuck indoors. 

Meditate, learn something through internet, watch movies, paint, dance, play board games, do some soothing conversation with your parents, video call your friends, help your mother in doing household work, try out aerobics and yoga, take time to reflect yourself, read or write a good story, work from home is not a bad option either, take out all the old albums, have a look on your childhood videos and feel nostalgic about how time flies so fast, keep yourself updated with this corona virus pandemic through any kind of medium.

I’m sure you must have already heard the above suggestions and many of us have also started implementing them. So these common ideas are for those people who are still taking this deadly virus lightly and complaining like a small kid.

We share this planet with many other species. Development is important but not at the cost of killing other species. We will overcome this but we must realize that messing with Mother Nature comes at a cost. Patiently wait for the storm to pass, cause this too shall pass.

Oopsss, I forgot to say something, “Stay safe, Stay home and Stay positive!” 😀 

 

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LITTLE THINGS ALWAYS MATTER IN LIFE🦋

Do you recall those moments which made your day beautiful before going to bed? Do you smile looking back at something that happened during the day? Wondering why I’m asking such questions? Well this blog is all about those sweet little gestures which add beauty to your life. Because little things matter and will always do.

Let me elaborate this topic by starting with the most celebrated day of everyone’s childhood, i.e. our BIRTHDAY. Generally People get excited for their birthdays because of grand surprises, lovely gifts they receive and parties they do to make their special day memorable. But my case is a bit different. Before moving to different city for higher studies, the best part of my birthday used to be when my mother wakes me up in the morning with a birthday wish in her sweetest voice along with showering of rose petals on my face. Nothing could ever make me happier than this gesture. Sometimes these small things go unnoticed because we take them for granted.

I always wonder how those tiny stars can lighten up the entire sky. How these cute little babies’ innocent smile refreshes everyone’s mood. How an old couple walking together hand in hand makes us believe in true and permanent love.

Close up of elderly couple holding hands and walking outdoors.
Close up of elderly couple holding hands and walking outdoors.
  • Dancing like a carefree bird with my whole heart.
  • Good hair day. When I can’t stop myself admiring in the mirror.
  • Watching a nice movie, curled up under the blanket.
  • Having a soothing conversation with family.
  • Evening walk on the terrace, listening to good music and feeling up the breeze.
  • Meeting an adorable dog or cat and getting to pet him or her.
  • 2 am phone calls to one of those rare people who knows me better than anyone else.
  • A session of craziness and laughter with my mates.
  • Cooking successfully without taking help from mommy the great👩‍🍳
  • Just looking at my parents and feeling satisfied that I’m one of the main reasons behind their happiness.
  • Fighting with my younger brother for T.V. remote or last slice of pizza.
  • Genuine Appreciation about anything.
  • Video calling with my cousins and friends just to take stupid random screenshots and post them on social media.

    Ohh! That’s me, posing with the adorable kitty “Saisha” 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These are some cute little things which brighten up my smile and have huge positive impact in my go-to life.

Not only in happiness, small things are also important in making your work life balanced and organised. We spend 80% of our day attending to small things. Sticking on commitments, delivering on time, following up on actions, doing every task with full dedication and what not? And if 80% of our day is spent disorganized and chaotic, where does it lead? A distracted mind will get more distracted and we won’t be able to concentrate on bigger assignments. This is why it is necessary to focus on little things first.

Generally human nature is all about getting connected with someone and expecting various things gradually with a passage of time. Over thinking and complaining of not meeting up the expectations often leads to frustration. But during this process, we neglect those small things they do to make us feel special.

There comes a time when you feel low, when things are not going great, every task seems messy and difficult to accomplish. On these days, you need to bring in the things that would require no effort to give you some strength to go through such tough phases. The magic of starting to focus on these little things is that you will gradually shift your thought from what is missing in your life to what is there.

So find joy and beauty in little things for one you will look back and realize they have played the major role in making your life happier!! 🙂 🌈

 

 

 

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LIVE LIFE LIKE A SUMMER VACATION

Every day in your life can be a vacation!

What used to be your favorite time of the year when you were in school? Well, if you ask me then it has to be the most awaited time of the year, “SUMMER VACATIONS” when we used to get free from our annual examinations and gear up to have nothing but the memorable time with our closed ones. Right from deciding to sleep the entire day while watching T.V to staying up till late night, we used to build castle in our own heads about various things. Planning for exciting fun-filled holidays, thrilling adventures, endless shopping, tradition of visiting maternal family and cousins’ get together.  Daymn! Is it even possible to achieve 100 plans in just 60 days? 😀

Although the vacation used to start with lots of vigor and promises but sadly culminate before we could actually get the feel of it. In the excitement of doing so many things altogether, we would forget about the duration of time and would thus end up doing half of what we thought. Leave aside the fun part, even our school homework was piled up for the last, creating a panic situation at the end.

Alike summer vacations, the similar situation manifests in life too.

All of our life, we keep making proposals about various uncertain events, trying to fix those problems or occurrences which are not even in our hands. But Life is so unpredictable; we desire something, plan something and get something else. Just as in our school days, we used to save the best for the summer vacations or at the end of the session. Similarly in life, we keep postponing the best for later stages. But the universal truth we all must abide by is, none of us is aware of our future.

Despite of planning for long , we cannot achieve everything and when we decides to go with a flow, things turn out more beautifully as it is rightly said that “unexpected and sudden plans are always the best ones’.

WHAT IS LIFE IN REALITY?

It’s so terrifying to hear multiple stories from all around about sudden demises, accidents, suicides, murders or any kind of shocking uncertain events. Now Just give a thought, what is life in reality? People struggle throughout with various issues related to career, work, building a house, worrying about children’s education and marriage and then suddenly there’s this unexpected full stop forever. They start getting trapped into the physical ailments and because of this everything comes to a standstill. Now what about their own dreams which they thought to fulfill after winding up the mentioned issues? What about those small wishes which kept on delaying thinking that this could be done afterwards too coz it’s not that important?

I’m definitely not against the planning process coz I know its importance as well. All I’m saying is we don’t decide time, it’s the life which does, we just pretend. So why to wait for the perfect time when you can take the moment and make it perfect?

MAKE LIFE AS MEMORABLE AS YOU TRY TO MAKE YOUR SUMMER VACATIONS!

STOP making plans for several lives in this one life because this journey is too short to worry about future and regret about the past. Live every moment with great joy and happiness as if you’re on a vacation. Don’t wait for a perfect summer holiday, start making each day like one. In whatever capacity we can, we should try and enjoy life in its each moment with every breathe so that there are no regrets of the summer vacation coming to an end! 🙂

Too easy to say such things and too hard to implement them in real. Isn’t it? But what’s that vacation where there is no difficulty in executing a plan? 😉 So start living your life like summer holidays, and do let me know about your views in the comment section.

The picture says it all!!

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JOINT FAMILY- Happy with Harmony !

Indian culture is full of values, ideologies and customs. Our culture believes in “परिवारो मम जीवनं ईशो मे परिच्छेदकः “ which means ‘Family is my life and God is my Judge’.  Having a family is the greatest blessing of God. There was a time when a term called “nuclear family” doesn’t used to exist. Despite of financial crisis or lack of any other resources, People were happy living together with their cousins and elders. But unfortunately, with the passage of time, Joint family system is gradually fading away. Living in a chaos, yet finding peace and happiness by having a sense of togetherness is basically what joint family is.

Being myself a family member of twenty most unusual but hilarious people, I feel that living together is more beneficial than having your own separate world. There’s no doubt that nuclear family has its own pros in today’s world of modernization but you can also not deny in the saying, “Ek saath rehne ka mazaa he kuch or hai!”

 

Let’s discuss the perks of having a jolly joint family:

Grandparents’ moral advice and blessings:

You’re the luckiest if you have the most experienced people i.e. grandparents in the house. Because the kind of love and blessings they shower upon us is the purest form of any emotion.

So always listen to what they suggest because they always think of your betterment and will never give you any wrong advice. Moreover you will always be free from your parents’ never ending scolding 😀

Team work:

When you’re growing up in a big family, one of the most important lessons which you learn is how to work in a group. Be it a planning of any celebration or just a routine task, working together will always be the preference of all the members. So that, more innovative ideas could be add on in less time.

Multi-Dimensional Growth:

Different people in the family possess different art, values and traits. They also differ in opinions and perceptions about a specific thing. In their company, children also get benefited by their knowledge. So they can have a multi-dimensional growth.

Unconditional Love:

Imagine how special you can feel when you get extra dose of unconditional love from your elders and siblings! Well that’s the beauty of a big fat family. All the pampering, love, care and concern for you just get doubled.

Family vacations and endless parties:

One of the best things of being a member of joint family is the happening family vacations. Travelling with your family in a mini-bus, having the best “antakshari” sessions is unparalleled to any other experience. You get to travel more and travel bigger.

Moreover, there is no stop to the amazing parties. Birthdays, festivals, marriages, anniversaries, achievements, celebrations goes on and on. And you also get multiple selfies+videos for your Instagram stories 😉

We may not have it all together But together, we have it all..!

Pillars of support and various sharing partners:

Nuclear family system does not give you too many options when it comes to sharing your secrets with anyone. And there are certain things which you might not feel comfortable sharing with your parents.

But a joint family person will never complaint about this issue because he/she has got the panel of members with whom one can easily have conversation on any topic. Uncle, aunt, sister/brother-in-law or cousins- you just have to pick your favorite one to burst out anything you have in your mind.

Tom and Jerry equation with your siblings:

Oh God! I have no words to describe the everyday fights with all my idiotic creatures. Our mum calls us “junglis” because we really act like one at times 😀 Fighting for remote, getting irritated by each other’s nuisance, our melodrama doesn’t get stop. But despite of all the arguments, anger and annoyance, we cannot think of living apart from each other. So this is why, we are current versions of Tom and Jerry.

Weirdos since birth!🐒

Understanding of every emotion:

When you are growing up with number of people, you got to understand their change in behavior or mood swings as well. You do not have to think for a longer time about what they want to say or express because you have know them for years. Their happiness, sadness, excitement, dull look generally becomes so predictable.

These are very basic and common points which everyone is aware of but the sad part is they do ignore it most of the times. So here’s a small reminder for my readers: Never hold grudges towards any of your family member. Because these people were your past, they are your present, and they will always be there standing by your side in your future too!

You might have misunderstandings and lack of privacy, You might feel insecure from one another or hurt each others’ feelings. But such issues are short lived because everyone knows the importance of family. And one or the other day, you will also realize that Life can be pleasant without the Internet as you have the biggest source of Entertainment at your own home..!!

May be Blurry Picture but definitely not a Blurry Life!🌸

 

 

 

 

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Hostel life : An Experience to be Remembered for Lifetime

Have you ever thought to escape from the madness of your home and come into a completely different place so that you can live as per your own way? Well I was never one of those, but living in the hostel has taught me more than the classroom learning because there are many lessons in life that books can’t teach you.  People have different perceptions about hostel life. Some find it too exciting while the other one is filled with mixed emotions as he is about to come at a strange place far away from his home. So basically, hostel is a new world to live in which makes you smart, active, independent and learner and everyone must experience this life

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Here are some of the basic reasons why this is an experience to be remembered for lifetime:

Learn to be independent

From the childhood, you have been pampered by your parents and they have done every possible thing to make you happy. But once you come to a new place, you realize that you cannot rely on your parents for every small thing. At so many stages, you take such decisions where there are no backups available. So hostel life teaches you to work on your own as it is really important to be independent in today’s world and it is a biggest lesson one learns while staying at a hostel. This may appear a bit troublesome in the beginning, but you get used to it after sometime and also turn into a confident person.

Home away from home

Isn’t it strange, how a person leaves his own place to reside in a new environment with strangers who gradually becomes his own family members? Though in initial days, people feel homesick. But once days keep going on, they start enjoying this life. You fight like an animal and cry like an idiot with your mates but those people are also the reason behind your smile. At the time of any problem, you know that you aren’t alone as they are standing by you not matter what.

Warden’s strict rules and punishments becomes the part of your daily routine. But when it comes to protection and concern, there’s no one better than him/her. From crying on the first day due to the feeling of strangeness to crying on the last day to leave those strangers, hostel becomes your home away from home.

Time and money management

Whether you excel at any other thing or not, managing time and money are the sure shots during this lodging. Being at home, we tend to happily spend the money wherever we wished to. But once you come out of your comfort place, you have monthly expenses that you need to spend sensibly. When you are given a particular amount of money, you definitely learn its value. Also, you learn the importance of time. Despite of all the regular fun and gossips in a hostel, you know how to take out time for your studies and assignments as these are the significant reasons behind your stay miles away from your family. This is how, hostel life teaches you to manage time and money in an accurate manner.

Fun, joy and Celebrations

Hostelers do not need a specific reason to celebrate. No matter if it is someone’s birthday or the other one’s bad day due to getting low marks in a test, you would find every kind of celebration in a hostel. Deciding what to do a night before, contributing money, dividing work among students and putting their best in every party, this is what hostlers do to make an event a memorable one. But these little gatherings lighten up everyone’s mood and fill the students with new zeal and enthusiasm.

Every small occasion and festival is celebrated with utmost pleasure and joy. And the sole purpose behind such events is to bring a sense of togetherness. (Well, I have no idea how much I’m going to miss these celebrations after my hostel life gets over)

The more you share, the more you care

We have always been taught that sharing is caring. But I understood the real meaning of this phrase after getting entered in my hostel life.

From sharing bed to wearing clothes & footwear of each others to eagerly waiting for your friend who is returning from home along with his\her “Ghar ka Khana”, hostel mates know how to share their stuffs with one another. Not only food and accessories, your random problems, serious issues, deep secrets are also being shared to feel lighter and get a sensible advice which rarely comes out from your idiotic creatures. So hostel life never fails to teach you the actual meaning of sharing.

Lifelong connections and memories

One of the most interesting reasons to experience such temporary accommodations is you come across with people from various cultures and backgrounds. You get to know about their lifestyles, opinions on different things. Generally friends gained at hostel are the ones that remain for our lifetime. They know about our crazy habits, silly tantrums but still choose to be with us. Time spent with them is indeed worth to remember. And such bonds results into a lifetime connections with whom you’ve cherished every little memory.

This life brings out the real you and extremely valuable memories for life. Some of them are unquestionably terrible; however most of them are immense and priceless. No matter how long a pile of clothes waiting to be washed or how pathetic the mess food is, hostlers knows how to manage things in their own way.

Enjoy every little moment of your hostel life because such madness won’t ever come back! 🙂

 

    HOSTEL LIFE ROCKS..!!

 

Feel free to share your own experience of hostel life in the comment section and leave a feedback if you liked this blog! 🙂

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Know How to Dance for Happiness

There’s always that one special quality or talent in everyone, which gives them utmost pleasure and joy and they always want to perform it by their whole heart. Everyone have different mindsets about the term Dance. Some feel like it is just moving rhythmically to music or typically following a set sequence of steps while other see it as a mode of earning money. But Dance can also be a reason for happiness in someone’s life. So this article will help you in finding out about how to dance for happiness

Say cheers to dance..!

Just dance and live the moment

It is said that “focus on the simple things that brings you joy”. Dancing can make you feel good because it will make you feel so alive even within a couple of minutes or hours. You will realize that it is one of the simplest way to lift your spirit. And the best part is you’re living and enjoying every moment of it, without thinking of anything else.

If you want to dance for happiness, always keep the most common but important phrase “Dance like no one’s watching” and you will feel like a carefree bird.

One of the most beautiful things about dancing is that it connects us to metaphor without having to think about the meanings and connections-we can just experience them. so just dance and enjoy the moment.

Her smile says it all 🙂

Benefits of dance

One can also get various benefits just by listening to the tune of music and performing on it even if you dance for happiness.

  • Brings positivity: We experience loads of negative vibe around us which is really frustrating off at times. We always find one or the other way to escape from that negativity. And when there’s dance, there’s always a way. No matter whether you’re a professional dancer or just a beginner, the moment you start stepping your feet and moving your hands, you will start feeling afresh. Correct me if I’m wrong but it’s the most chilled out way to brings positivity in one’s life. Isn’t it?
  • Pure emotion: Expressing without Explaining verbally or in written, I don’t think anything else could be such easier form of depicting your emotions with full of grace and purity. Well, that’s the beauty of dance where one does not have to pretend or be fake in any sense.
  • Improves Fitness and flexibility: Obesity and laziness is a serious issue in 21st But dance helps you to get rid of this problem. It brings your energy level higher and makes you more active. Here’s just a small reminder ‘ Be fit, Be flexible just by moving your body according to the beats of music’
  • Takes away your stress: In this world full of worries and tensions, one always need that one thing which makes him/her feel refreshed and lighten. Dance can help you to boost up your mood and can let you forget about all the worries.silhouette of person jumping during dawn
  • Makes you more social and trendy: It is almost impossible to stay away from one or the other media platform, especially for young generation like us as going with a “trend” is all that we want. You always post video on social websites whenever you learn or see something new in terms of dance. What a cool way to be a good source of entertainer among your friends and family. Isn’t it?
  • Good career opportunity: It can be tough at times when your passion doesn’t pay all your bills. Many dancers find themselves irritated and working odd jobs just to make ends meet. But there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. There are number of ways you can use your craft to generate some extra income. Like, teach private lessons or classes, choreograph for special events, write articles on dance, monetize your social account, post your dance tutorials on YouTube etc.

Not every hobby has to become hustle

If you cook well and have adequate knowledge of different types of dishes, someone will eventually suggest you to do it for money. If you write anything convincing or affecting, you’ll be asked to write a book or an article. This might look interesting and exciting to you at initial stage but slowly you will have to keep a track of everything because now your hobby has turned out to your profession. There are bigger consequences to your commitments, customers to satisfy, rules to follow and so on. Now, no matter how great you’re, if you end up losing money, you’ve failed. And the harder you hustle, the more prominent your failure will be.

Similarly there are number of people who have keen interest in dancing but not everyone thinks of making it their own profession. This is  because they want to enjoy their special talent without taking it as a burden or responsibility. And it is completely fine as everyone’s version of happiness is something different. If there are certain things which gives you the utmost satisfaction, even though you’re not getting anything in return as of now, do more of that. I believe that to be happy means to get to know yourself and your purpose better.

man sitting beside toddler boy while playing guitar and looking at the woman in ballerina dress in the woods
Being happy is all you need.

So for all the dancers or my lovely audience who are reading this blog, here is a small advice for you all that there’s no such necessity to always convert your talent into professional work. If you are very sure about it and you haven’t thought of any other alternative for your career then only go for it otherwise it’s better to keep your hobby aside from your work. It would be great if your dancing skills can help you in earning but only if you’re happy from inside and out, otherwise there’s no worth of it. Because at the end of the day, all that you want is to stay happy.

 

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