The title of this blog is the constant thought which keeps running, or shall I say “ruining” my mind? And I believe, you all will concur me on this. Ever since I started growing up, I’ve realized that whenever there’s a joy of excitement, it mostly ends up being a blunder. This is the core reason why I’m too scared to be happy.
In psychology, it is termed as ‘Cherophobia’. But here, we’ll discuss about it more in a facile manner to not make you yawn :p.
Okay let’s start with some basic instances. We plan for a short trip with our cousins/friends. Everything is set and suddenly you receive a call from one of them, saying that he/she has fallen sick so the plan has to be dropped. Boom!!!!
Want another reality check? You’re all set to nail a presentation after 7 days of hard work including sleepless nights and no social life. But on the D- Day, you get to know that the manager replaces you with one of your colleagues believing that he will create a better impression on the client. Don’t tell me such kind of last minute hustle never happened with you!
There are a lot of negative occurrences as well but I’m too sweet to highlight any of them :p
Whenever I feel happy, I tend to feel sad or scared at the same time because I’m afraid to lose that someone or something that I’m excited about. I start believing that I should not express my happiness in case it upset others. This is blocking our progress in therapy. Isn’t it?
So the questions arises, what do we do if we have a fear of being happy? How to stop this connection and feel pure happiness? Are we over thinking? Is it normal to feel so?
Well… let me just sum up by saying that everything is normal to a certain extent. Once you reach a saturation point, it will start affecting you in a negative way. So lets discuss about how can we create a happy mind and life:
Journaling
This approach is very helpful to make you sleep peacefully. On days when you feel blue, you can read through your gratitude journal to readjust your attitude and remember all the good things in your life. So start penning down your thoughts whenever you feel like doing so.
Relaxation techniques
This is the best way to distract yourself from overthinking. These methods can be of your choice. Be it Yoga, Zumba, hitting the gym, Meditation, or just a casual long walk along with headphones plugged in. Both mental and physical peace are important to keep you distracted from such anxious thoughts
Stick to your psyche
Stop thinking about the outcome before even thinking about the scrutiny. Stick to what you’re feeling. Your happiness doesn’t depend on your irrelevant anticipations.
Live in the moment
Sounds a bit cliché right? But it is indeed the doorway to freedom There is so much clarity, peace and joy in the present moment. To truly let go of the past and stop fearing the future is liberating. So shift your focus from externals and you’ll be better equipped to realize how beautiful your present is.
Final Thoughts
Broadly speaking, happiness and wellbeing are essential components for a successful and fulfilling life. So are you still too scared to be happy? Drop down your comment of how do you deal with this trepidation or let me know if this write up has helped you even a bit, thinking about how to overcome the fear of living a carefree life.